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Respect Mother. For whome?
Somewhere, I met my old friend Mr. Mheik. Said hello. We start to have a small general talk. Immediately he started to teach a lot before i say anything. He shows his wide knowledge in different matters which I did not under stood. What about you?

Respect Mother but for Whome?
Self      : Hello Mr. Mheik, I am watching you for the last half an hour, you are busy with your friend discussing something. Any important matter?
Mheik : Oh. Nothing serious. My friend made a big mistake, luckily I came to know and advised him to go in the correct direction.
Self      : What is that? Can you tell me, if you don’t mind?
Mheik : Of course. Why not? There was a problem with my friend and his mother. Friend has big argument with her and now staying with his wife separate.  I told him to respect and asked him to obey what ever his mother says.
Self      : Did you ask what was the matter caused the separation?
Mheik : No need to know those matters. Only thing, he has to listen and accept even if she say wrong. It is the duty of a son to obey the parent’s command. There is no question of right or wrong. He should not have any argument, that is all, I said.
Self      : Oh, now the peoples are well educated. They know much more knowledge than their parents in so many matters. So it is better to discuss and compromise.  They can not accept all matters as they new what is correct and what is wrong.
Mheik : Again you are doing a big mistake. This is against the law. Parents have full right against their son in all decision. No son or daughter can talk against them in any matter. Pl. don’t argue wrongly. It is not the correct way. You have to change your mind too. This is the main thing, I forced my friend. I advised my friend to get apology from his mother.
Self      : Mr. Mheik, I cam to know that your wife asked her mother to get out of her house. She also asked your daughter to shut the door by sending grand ma out and not to allow her inside in the next time. Is it correct?
Again Mr. Mheik turned his head and left the place without any reply.

 

Dowry Vs Gift :
Self      : What happened, you are smiling, anything happy?
Mheik : That is right. My cousin got marriage. Before marriage, I advised him not to get any dowry from the bride. It is absolutely bad thing. Getting money or material from the bride is very bad practice in our society.
Self      : Yes, you are correct. Now the situation is improving. As the education level increase, dowry is slowly decreasing.
Mheik : You know one thing, if any one give or get dowry, I will not attend the marriage. I used to advice every one just to neglect those marriages. If every one does that, our society will improve fast.
Self      : What about your cousin?
Mheik : He is good. He is educated, good earning, but did not collect even a single paisa or any single material. He is honest.
Self      : Fine. After his marriage, in the next day a truck load of Soffa, Bed, Washing machine, Ac, Fridge, Micro Oven, Cooking items came from his wife’s house. What about that?
Mheik : Oh! You are wrong. Completely you misunderstood. He did not ask any thing. His father in law gives them as gift to his daughter. His wife has the right to accept the gift from her parents. My cousin has nothing to do with that.
Self      : Mr. Mheik, if so, why don’t you advise your cousin, to buy  two truck load of materials and send it to his wife house as a gift from his father?
When I was talking, Mr. Mheik left the place without giving any answer.

Dowry Vs Gift:
Ö   Tick if Yes.     Blank if No
Collecting Dowry is correct
Collecting Dowry is wrong
Collecting material / money from bride before marriage is wrong.
Collecting material / money from bride after marriage wrong
Collecting material / money from bride after marriage is correct.
Father in law can give cash or material to his daughter before or after marriage
Better to avoid receiving money or materials from father in law after marriage.
If received, he should return money and material to wife's parents from his capacity.
Collecting money or materials after marriage is just cheating society or drama
Collecting money or materials after marriage is correct
  
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Sorry. Gift received for wife? from in laws!!!

 

   
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