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Successful working women and husband's jealousy:
(7 Oct 08) <Click>
Many women are well educated and career oriented in
Saudi Arabia and Arab countries. They use their all abilities
and worked hard, as a result they earn more than their
husbands. But, many husbands cannot tolerate the successes of
their life partner. They do not co operate personally with
wives who need them as a working lady. They begin to tease,
mock and discourage their wives. Many of them pull their wives
legs due to frustration which lead to spoil the atmosphere of
home and ultimately the marriage life. It affects negatively o
the children as well.
Being expatriate working women, they do not have any close
relatives to support them mentally and physically. Many leave
the careers to keep satisfy the ego of their husbands.
What is the Psyche of men regarding this issue?
What these women should do to handle this problem?
What is the responsibility of the husband of a successful
woman?
I would be very thankful if you reply me soon in detail-
Regards/
Sameera Aziz |
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Answer
Coming from someone who's been raised as Muslim, I can tell you
that a lot of what Muslim men feel when it comes to their
women working it's a blow to their ego. Secondly they feel
that it goes against their religious beliefs since if I am
correct Muslim men seem to think that a woman should be under
his control and that she is his property. They feel that they
should be the providers and that a woman's place is in the
home, and that doesn't seem to be the thing with a lot of
young modern Muslim women some of them feel better working for
their own money.
A good husband should support his wife even if she made more
money than him and to help her out with things in the home if
she's going to be making the majority of the income. Men in
the Arab world feel threatened by women who are more
successful than them and they feel like that if a woman has
independence she's apt to become sexually free and to have
choices and opinions about the world they live in and to also
object to even marrying men of the same ethnicity. It wouldn't
be a shock that as the world modernizes that women in the Arab
world will stand up for themselves and to be more independent
of having to depend on a man to take care of them. It will
also look at the fact that many more women will have a bigger
choice in their life other than to be a wife and baby maker.
Arab women envy the women of the world because
American and
European women have choices such as driving, going to college,
having a career and deciding to have children and marry. It
seems like you're dealing with men who have a sexist mentality
and seeing how so many women of the world have choices to be
individuals and to be free and not feel like their existence
surrounds depending on a man. If anything the only way women
can overcome the way men look at them for working and going to
school is to continue educating themselves because over time
men will be forced to realize we women are people too and we
have the right to choose how we live and work in our lives. |
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